Once upon a time (when I worked on South Beach) I might have been able to say that being a veterinarian was somewhat glamorous (as it seems too many people believe).
TV news stations filmed me for occasional segments on tasty topics like skin disease in the summer and gastrointestinal upset at Christmastime. Once, I had Miami’s most famous family in entertainment film me as I delivered ten healthy bulldog pups by C-section. I even had the distinct pleasure of firing a high-profile, bad-boy, Kennedy-clan client. Now, if that’s not a glancing blow at glamour, I don’t know what is.
Now that I practice in South Miami, far, far away from the clients that throw their Yorkies out of Bentley windows so they can get to their $400-a-snip hairdresser on time, I’m feeling a whole lot less fabulous.
While I used to be able to practice in jeans (as long as they were of the $300 variety) and high heels (Prada, please!), I’ve now turned my volume down to suburban standards. OK, so I still wear heels (and maybe Levi’s on Saturdays), but here’s a perfectly American irony for you:
In perhaps the only practice in the world a vet gets more respect when she wears denim, I never had—even once—to lift a manicured finger for anything less professional than a scalpel or stethoscope. Here in the ‘burbs, where a vet gets more respect in Ann Taylor flats and slacks, I push mops, scoop poop and wipe down cages like everyone else—albeit less often than the kennel help, admittedly.
Make-up? Coif? Pedicure? Manicure? Jewelry? Massage? Facial? Laser? Wax? It’s been months, dahling. For starters, I can’t afford it anymore. Long gone are the hairdresser-to-the-stars clients who loved to treat their favorite vet to a cut valued at more than a car payment. No more is the spa a stone’s throw from the hospital for lunch-hour treatments.
And, most damning of all, I said “buh-bye” to the income that came with the too-white smiles of the private jet-set—the very income that paid for the Bal Harbor wardrobe, the personal trainers, yachting weekends and my then-immaculate grooming.
It’s been a tough lifestyle transition. After all, it’s way too easy to feel as if you deserve every bit of your spoiled, glamour-girl existence. “Because I’m worth it” is a Madison Avenue construction that has no place in a veterinarian’s positive self-image—whether she can pay for it or not. But it’s not easy to turn your entire life around on a dime, either.
So now I get to the real point of my post (in case you were wondering if there’d be one): Working in a more traditional vet medicine setting has been good for me, as I think it is for other women in the profession. Here, I’m no longer queen bee, but rather, a glorified drone who needs no high-end adornment to feel successful.
Somehow (perhaps not surprisingly), work feels more real now that I pick up s--- on a daily basis and, more to the point, now that the money I make is tied to the things I really need. In this new world order, luxury actually feels like a treat and not a mandatory part of my daily maintenance. (The now-rare massage is like heaven.)
I’m not sad to lose the routine, now that I’ve taken to home-based exercise and DIY brow tweezing in lieu of the J Sisters’ ministrations. Rock stars peeing in waiting room potted plants? I can lose that, too. (Sadly, that’s a true story.)
And I’m similarly pleased as to my gains. Shoveling crap? I’m OK with that. No desk and cramped, forty-year-old quarters? I can handle it. Ultimately, humility is a good thing for vets—and for everyone else, too.
So why is it that, somehow, I still long for my Prada platforms?
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One of my colleagues wears heels and a skirt to teach biology labs, and I have no clue how she does it. Sneakers and jeans for my simple physics labs!
I had a student once who always challenged me in class when I wore jeans and was polite when I wore dress pants. I thought it was that he didn't respect me when I looked casual and less like a woman should, but one of my colleagues told me another possibility was that when I dressed like a man he treated me like a peer instead of something remote and on a pedastal. I didn't like having the class disrupted so much though, so I did consciously dress up more that semester.
zandperl February 25th, 2007 09:36:00 PM
To me it's depressing that what I wear reflects so much on how good I am at what I do. As long as I'm clean and relatively neat I figure it shouldn't matter too much. As you know, dogs and cats are messy animals. So as long as I wear a white coat, what does it matter what I've got on underneath? (within reason, of course)
Dr. Patty Khuly February 26th, 2007 10:13:00 AM
Huh. My vets wear surgical scrubs, which always seemed very reasonable to me. Cheap, easy to clean, easy to keep a bunch of spares around for when some poor beast has vomited on you...
Laura February 26th, 2007 01:27:00 PM
a short time into my career having covered a 2 hour Sunday surgery a few days later I was requested to have a quiet word with my boss.
There had been two complaints made about me. Incorrect diagnosis .. NO , incorrect treatments ...NO , rude to the pet owners .. NO. My major midemeanour, in the first instance, wearing trainers(US sneakers?) rather than proper shoes and in the second wearing a T shirt and not a shirt and tie !
We are all frequently but usually wrongly judged on what we wear not what we do.
jackholly February 26th, 2007 06:55:00 PM
Jack- They wanted you to wear a shirt and a tie in surgery? Or was it clients complaining that you were not wearing a shirt and a tie?
If it's the first scenerio, I would have to ask why. It isn't as if you'd be in view of clients while in surgery and wouldn't the tie get in the way? Or are you supposed to wear scrubs over it?
If it's the first scenerio, that's just weird.
Stacy February 26th, 2007 07:31:00 PM
Sorry Stacy thats probably my fault the way I wrote the post. It gets confusing UK speak compared to US speak. Our surgeries are I think like your clinics and we tend to use operations or operating time or theatre to indicate surgery.
It was whilst I was consulting with the client; and I don't consider that I was unsmart ; but I was judged on my appearance and not that my treatment made their pet well..
They may have well as complained that my hair was too short or that I was wearing glasses etc
jackholly February 28th, 2007 08:08:00 PM
Jack--I never get "talked to" about my appearance and I believe it's because I'm female and my colleagues are a bit embarrassed to say anything. It would be kind of weird to be told my skirts are too short or my heels are too high. As long as the clients keep coming back and seem happy I guess they're OK with it.
Dr. Patty Khuly March 2nd, 2007 08:10:00 AM
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